Be careful what you make your meaning. By this, I mean, be careful what you tell yourself about who you are and why you are here.
Hours ago, it became news that New York fashion icon, Kate Spade had died. She was 55. In the whiff of that moment or probably out of sheer curiosity, I asked a group of friends what kind of meaninglessness could motivate a person to commit suicide. My premise was that rich people in Africa never commit suicide or maybe a small number have but it must be pretty negligible as we hardly read of such stories in our news.
One of my friends responded that there were just too many people living with depression, internal conflicts and mental health issues in the West.
This response rang a bell in my heart why we should all be Christian. And I don’t mean the religion with it’s effigies touted around the world. I mean, the people that God intended all humankind to be. And here is why:
To be Christian is to be God’s home. When a man or woman accepts the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross and his resurrection, God makes that person His home and in every sense makes them immune to sickness and poverty by virtue of Him living in them.
To be Christian is to be capable of infinite love. When a man or woman becomes Christian and God takes up residence in them, He broadcasts His boundless love in their hearts so that they are capable of forgiving and loving without limit. Love is one of the ways that we as a race are distinguished from the rest of the world.
To be a Christian is to be a vital part of a community. Certain people muffled Christianity into an institution but it is actually a community. Christians share a brotherhood that recognize no denominations or sectarianism. We are one. And when you become a Christian, God the Father puts something in you for the rest of us. He gifts you with spiritual manifestations that other Christians can be blessed by.
To be Christian is to be an answer to the cries of the world. Becoming a Christian puts you in a class of solution providers for the problems of the world. And this is just in the area of performing miracles, your mind is upgraded such that you are able to use your work, products and personality to bring tangible change to many. We are charged to let our light shine so that men glorify our Father God.
To be Christian is to have exclusive access to God. All you need to be able to have conversations with God is to become a member of the family. I know it may sound a little cliche but God who allows us to have meaningful conversations with each other is particular about having same with you, possibly on a daily basis. He may not come down in bodily form to banter and laugh with you at the dinner table after a hard day’s work but He will make impressions in your heart that you can relate to; that He listens to you and you can speak to Him.
Their can definitely be no defeat or disadvantage to becoming Christian. It is the answer to depression, loneliness and suicidal spells.
I honestly wish that Kate Spade had read this blog post yesterday to learn how deeply the love of God was willing to go to drag her out of any difficulty she might have faced internally. This love is present with you now, right here and I know you can sense it because I prayed for you with the love of God in my heart.
Don’t turn away from it. Simply look up a Bible verse in Acts 4:12 and trust that it was God that reached out with His infinite love to you.
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I love you.
Sometimes, all some people want is for you to be a role: husband, wife, father, boss, son or friend. And that’s all. They aren’t interested you, your likes or dislikes,and so on.
As far as you play your role like an actor following his or her lines, they are fine. They’ll reward you. After all, that’s why we have the Oscars.
But the problem is, because they don’t see you for who you really are, they lose a lot. And this is sad, both ways . It deprives you of the opportunity to be a blessing to them while depriving them of a similar opportunity to be blessed by you.
In many mentor-mentee relationships this is very common. Blinded by shortcomings, or the personal need to understand their own selves, some people leave when they should stay; run away when they should stick around; judge when they should pray. And all of that.
If you’ve been blighted by such a gaff in any of your relationships, it’s the tale of most of human existence; that all of us, somehow, want to be loved for who we are, and not for the roles we play; for being a person, not a colleague or a driver or a mother or a step son; that we get noticed for the haircut or the new dress or the freckles that are strewn on our faces; to know that we can connect with you in a visceral way when you ask, ‘How are you?’ It appears that when we know this, that you truly care, then we whip out the person that we are—good or bad.
And yet, when striking up a conversation with any person for the first time, we often clutch at platitudes for follow up questions like ‘What do you do?’ or ‘Where do you work?’and answers like, ‘Oh I am an accountant’ or ‘I am a house wife’ not mattering who asks… or who answers.
We quickly look past the person to what they do or rather, what they can do…for us; never really bothering what we can do for, with and through them.
It’s a shortsightedness that almost all of us have been socialized by; to look past a person to their the commercial, social or emotional benefit without thinking; to look past ourselves to what we do, more than who we are.
You are not what you do for me or her or anybody. You are a person–with an essence. And if you ever find someone who focuses on who you are–your worth– you should never let them go.
May your week be blessed with victories.
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